Example of a bad "should" No. 0001
Example of a bad "should" No. 0001
We shouldn’t should on people, including ourselves.
New version of this article at whyweshould.loofs-samorzewski.com
In the self-help article How ‘Should’ Makes Us Stupid — And How to Get Smart Again by Jane Elliott (warning medium member only access, but you might get a freebie or two), we get a number of usages on how bad “should” is. This rap sheet lists the misdemeanours that we, as in you, you shouldy miscreant, use ‘should’ in a bad way. Because:
“This is how ‘should’ turns a relatively smart person into someone who forgets how to do basic problem solving.”
I do not want to get into to it too much, because: life coaching. Except to say I have only ever shoulded myself on those occasions when I have encouraged myself into going out to meet people, at parties, or, whatever… and since I have successfully reproduced I no longer have this as any sort of problem to solve.
However I would like to just list it here as an example of the milieu which informed the original comment that spurred this long wayward track of my writing life. Let’s re-
paraphrase it as: We shouldn’t should on people, including ourselves.
And written down in the article for which this blog is named, Why we should : an introduction by memoir into the implications of the Egalitarian Revolution of the Paleolithic, or, Anyone for cake?
